just be honest
I learnt another lesson today.
The situation is simple: My old friend is in Vancouver, and we both want to meet. We're in the process of deciding dates for when he can come to Toronto.
This situation is proving to be way harder than I originally thought it was going to be. And I think a big reason why is because I wasn't being honest from the start.
He wants to visit Toronto. But I want to visit Vancouver. But I also don't want to piss him off.
At the moment, my friend doesn't even know that I want to visit Vancouver. But I realised that if I'm not 100% honest with him, then it's guaranteed that one of us is going to be upset.
And it's guaranteed to be me.
At least if I tell him what I want, we can work to solve this so the both of us can get what we want. And if we can't make it work, then at least I can say I tried.
My desire to visit Vancouver is overriding my desire to please my friend.
I need to tip the scale to my side more regularly if I want to get what I want out of life. And that attitude is guaranteed to piss some people off, so I might as well come to terms with that now.